How to plan your last minute Valentine’s Date Night at home by Sara Shoesmith

If like many of us, you are a busy working mum, you probably haven’t had time to think about Valentine’s Day yet. Quite honestly, to me it’s just the same as any other day, except that you are encouraged to declare your love for your partner.

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If you don’t then ‘bah humbug’, you should feel very guilty. Wouldn’t it be far more romantic if our other half’s did something thoughtful and totally out of the blue? That is what love is about! Spontaneous and random acts of kindness. Please don’t be disheartened by the media or other people celebrating V-Day in style. It is a money printing enterprise. 

Don’t get me wrong, I love receiving a card or a bunch of flowers, I’m a girl! I am all for appreciating your partner and making time for each other, especially as parents, that bit I understand. Speaking of which, I have come up with a few date ideas for those of you who can’t get out because of your little darlings.

It is so important to acknowledge that the smallest things can be so romantic. V-Day should be about you and your partner only, not anyone else’s expectations or traditions. Do something you both enjoy, something that makes you smile or laugh, something that reminds you why you fell in love;

Love story

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Watch a film that includes a love story (I know it may sound obvious or even boring to some, but it is rare that parents get the opportunity to just sit and be. We don’t want to cause any arguments so please pick something that you both agree on, if you can’t agree then shortlist two and flip a coin, let fate decide!) Oh and get a takeaway so you don’t have to cook.

Meal in for 2


Buy an M&S dinner for 2 or the equivalent from your local supermarket, (It’s like going out for dinner, only cheaper and quicker service too). For just £20 this Valentines, you can enjoy a lovely meal that you don’t have to prep, and wine, who wouldn’t love that?! I don’t work for M&S I promise.


Games night


Play a game (I’m not talking hide and seek but maybe a board game/card game. Put a bit of fun back into your relationship and remind yourselves of how well you get on with each other. If I had a board game of MR & MRS i’d play that for sure. And get a takeaway so you don’t have to cook.


Early to bed


Go to bed early (This one sounds really boring! What I mean by this is spend some time in bed not sleeping but cuddling up and talking to each other like you probably used to in the early stages of your relationship). Oh and did I say get a takeaway so you don’t have to cook.

Your next date night


Make a plan together, get your calendars synced and organise to spend a day/night alone just the two of you, with enough time to get childcare sorted and save up to make it extra special. The process of planning something together is a bonding exercise in itself and is fun choosing what to do/where to go. And get a takeaway so you don’t have to cook.

Slow Dance


You’re probably thinking, cringe because it reminds you of school. Light some candles, put on some nice music and embrace each other. Apart from the occasional drunken moment, we rarely enjoy just being close to one another, swaying to the music, smiling because we love each other and because we have each other.  And get a takeaway! 


There are tons of home date ideas but I just thought i’d share a few of mine. So there you have it, no need to worry about making any last minute plans. No need to worry about what to wear. Create your own version of romantic at home. I hope you have enjoyed reading this guest blog. 

On a more serious note I’d like to briefly share with you who I am and what I do. I’m Sara Shoesmith, owner of Only Human Therapy . I am a Counsellor and Psychotherapist so my job is to make people feel better. I have 3 great workshops coming up as well as my ongoing one to one sessions. Please click on the links below for more info. It would be great to hear from and meet some of you lovely readers so please reach out if you think I can help. I am trained to deal with a wide range of issues for individuals, couples, children and organisations.


Kathryn Stimpson